I often wonder about what would make another woman justify in her mind that it is okay to sleep with a married man.
I am sure most women have experienced flirting and come-ons from men in committed relationships. I find it is the most repugnant characteristic. There is nothing about that behavior that makes me think, “Yes, you are the man I want to be with.” I don’t find it flattering, it doesn’t make me think I am better than his wife in any way, it doesn’t make me feel desirable. It only makes me think, “Creep. I feel sorry for your wife. She deserves better.”
I am a woman so I am trying to understand another woman’s thinking. Janice Andrews was either pursued by my husband or she pursued him. They each conveyed somehow to each other that even though we are married (Janice was living with her spouse in a 12-year common-law marriage), we are open and available to each other.
I hold my ex husband 100% responsible for straying and for leading Janice Andrews astray regardless of the semantics of how it all began. He knew better. He studied the bible shortly after we married, was baptized as an adult, vowed to follow Jesus, lead ministries and studied the bible with other men, counseling them in their lives and marriages. He saw the consequences first hand of marriages destroyed by infidelity. He knew the pain caused to families and the struggle for relationships to continue after cheating.
At some point though he began to live a lie to pursue cheating himself. It was before he met Janice because after discovering his affair with her I searched deeper. I found that his pursuit of an affair had started at least a year before we moved to British Columbia. That was 4 years before he began to work with Janice. Even though he was clearly professing his love and lust for Janice to her via texts, he was at the same time flirting and making plans with other women as well. He was casting out his net. Initially, at least, he wasn’t going to be limited just because he caught fish Janice. But what made her bite?
Janice’s own retweet of DeAndre Page from November 16, 2017 may offer an explanation: “think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” It is the Law of Attraction. Whatever vibe he was putting out, she was lured. She seems to have been putting out the same vibe with her willingness to cheat on her spouse. Maybe deception vibes run on a different frequency path than loyal and faithful vibes. After all, Satan knows how to light things up to make it look and feel more exciting than God’s promises.
Let’s explore other thoughts from Janice that could provide some insight into a mind that might need to try and justify her need to feed her own desires over consideration of the lives of other people.