adultery, blogging, bullying, cheating, divorce, Falsehood, Fraud, Janice Andrews, lies, the other woman

Bullying, Mobbing and Heroes and Heroines

I have had more than 125 comments flood my inbox in the last 2 days, most of them over the last day. They are in response to my ex discovering my blog and using a posse of coercers to try and pressure me to shut it down.

Although it turns out he is only trying to make it look like a posse of coercers. He is in fact both Sally and Happy and it is the same person who is Devil’s Advocate, Winner Winner Chicken Dinner, Two Wrongs don’t make a right and WTF. Once a deceiver always a deceiver. Perhaps Azif, Troubles Brewing and Silly Sally’s Sister are separate coercers. Then there is Chris who is pro Janice but seems to be separate. He knows them but doesn’t seem to be exactly on side.

The comments range from being crude, offensive, mocking, coded with inside jokes and innuendos between the fake commentators, defamatory, baiting, and all of them for the most part identify me and where I live (I’ve never hidden where I lived).

The definition of bullying involves “using superior strength or influence to intimidate someone typically to force him or her to do what one wants.” Synonyms include: persecute, oppress, tyrannize, browbeat, harass, torment, intimidate, strong arm and dominate.

Wikipedia indicates that “Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power, which distinguishes bullying from conflict.[1] Behaviors used to assert such domination can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particular targets.

“If bullying is done by a group it is called Mobbing.”

“Bullying ranges from simple one-on-one bullying to more complex bullying in which the bully may have one or more ‘lieutenants’ who may seem to be willing to assist the primary bully in his or her bullying activities.”

I believe I am being accused of bullying by this posse because I posted the name of Janice Andrews and that she lives in Victoria, BC. There is no goal to intimidate her to do anything by that post. I was simply posting a fact. She cheated with my spouse and did so publicly. It is not even a private fact. She was not hiding her behaviour. She was using both of her work emails and work phone to engage in the affair. She used work functions and other social outings with my husband to display her behaviour.

I believe that my ex is however using bullying tactics in an effort to intimidate me to stop blogging. He has repeatedly stated my full name, maiden and married, along with where I live on every single post I have entered. He has attempted to contact me with false names under false pretences. He has encouraged other people to identify me and to contact me with false names and negative comments. He orchestrated an ambush of aggressive insults by several people over the course of an entire day. Or at least he tried to make me believe that was what was happening when it was possibly only 2 people the entire time pretending to be 6 different people. They both also attacked anyone who has ever supported me, encouraged me or sided with me on any of my posts.

Amongst all of this appear some heroes and heroines. No one that I asked to come to my defence. No one that I have any relationship with outside of this blog. Some who called out Dave even as they ridiculed or admonished me. None the less they let Dave know he was not held in high regard and put the blame solely on his shoulders. They commented he lied to both me and Janice. (They seemed very pro-Janice). It could be another fake personality but Dave went begging this person trying to plead his case. I am mostly proud of Nephila, KCRambles and Whoresnotwelcome. They stood their ground and showed no fear or intimidation or waiver in their point of view.

Advertisements
Standard

82 thoughts on “Bullying, Mobbing and Heroes and Heroines

  1. Anon says:

    I think dave has a point, albeit for selfish reasons. If your daughters were to find this blog, and now you have been discovered, it would be psychologically and emotionally damaging to them and may affect them for the rest of thier lives seeing thier parents fight like this. Your daughter is at university, she will fail and drop out if you 2 keep fighting like this and don’t support her. It’s a really sorry state of affairs.

    I think it’s time to delete the blog and find other outlets or at the very least edit out bits that could be damaging to your daughters’ well being.

    Kay

  2. I will continue to defend you because I hate bullying manipulaters. I know what it’s like to be on the receiving end from a person who did not get what they wanted. Your ex can use however many persona that he wants to he still did the wrong thing. Does the fact he has to have numerous ids on here indicate that he has some sort of personality disorder anyway? Stand your ground lovely when he realises he is getting nowhere he will back down like bullies always do x

      • Here is a cut and paste Dave from what I “researched”. You look it up and see if it fits and maybe there is some help for you.

        I think your entries on my blog help support my suspicions. I am only going by my experience based on the indicators that I recognize from our 23 year relationship. Love covers a multitude of sins and with you leaving I had the opportunity, through counselling and reflection and the insight of others, to really assess how I was treated throughout our marriage.

        “Antisocial Personality Disorder results in what is commonly known as a Sociopath. The criteria for this disorder require an ongoing disregard for the rights of others, since the age of 15 years.
        Profile of the Sociopath – R. Preston McAfee
        http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html
        You visited this page.”

        I have a right to create a blog. I have a right to share my experience. You don’t have to like it but this is my right. My lawyer confirmed that you and Janice did visit the police and they told you this is my right. They apparently read through my blog and have no issues with anything I have posted. I have even allowed you this right by allowing you to share your many voices on my site and to post my identity all over the place.

        I have a right to move on after you left the marriage. You checked out on ever level and even proclaim here you were unhappy for years. You don’t have to like it but that is my right. You can stomp and disagree that I am not moving on but I have. The only reason I have ever contacted you over the last couple of years is in an effort to collect on expenses you owe me. I have even stopped that and am just going through the lawyer and soon the courts so there doesn’t have to be any contact. I tried to have a contacting relationship with you surrounding the children, only but that didn’t work so I don’t even contact you about them. When you stop resisting and just follow legal agreements you have made there will likely be no more need for me to share anything on this blog about you. When you stop resisting you might be able to move on as well.

        I have a right to be reimbursed money you agreed to reimburse me and that is legal for me to collect under Family Law for support, especially for our children. I know you think you can fight this right but you are just costing us both money. Your own lawyer, who is your friend, is even frustrated by your resistance.

        You have never had counseling. I think maybe if you just seek some support you can get help with your decision making. Do it for your ability to have peace of mind. Do it for your children. Do it for Janice. She only feels I am in her life because you are still in mine. The post about her identity was almost a year ago.

  3. Justification and making you look like you “deserve” whatever came upon you…of course you must be evil. No one would ever step out on their marriage and flaunt it if you weren’t…oh, wait, lying to your spouse and entering into a new relationship before one ended and confusing your children as to what respectful and loving relationships are seems evil maybe, now I’m not sure? No. It’s pretty clear to me.
    Am I supposed to be confused by the comments your ex is leaving? Am I now supposed to see things his way rather than your way? Public or private…our ideas and perspective are our own. Sharing them in this forum opens them up to judgement of sorts from all angles. I don’t see what gain your ex may have for revealing your name/location (and WOW the foul language and declasse commenting)…I only see his act as childish and a reaction to anger/guilt. If he doesn’t want to be judged as a man who stepped out on his marriage (before he chose the upstanding thing to do FIRST! – which would be get a divorce BEFORE) then maybe he shouldn’t have ‘done the deed’.
    Obviously if he feels the need to get HIS perspective out in the forum of public opinion, he is free to create his own blog…obviously he has a start for several different screen name options! lol I’m sure he will find support from others who are just like him and ready to demonize you…it kinda works that way. An old pastor once told me that the key to living a happy life was to realize this one statement as truth: Life isn’t fair and people don’t act right.
    Hang in there and try to keep your chin up, don’t take the bait, and put one foot in front of the other…this too shall pass…and one day, hopefully you will think of it less often and it will have less impact. Praying for you!

  4. I’m a hardened cynic as you all know. I wouldn’t be surprised if one third of the bloggers on here were actually “gasfitters from Sunderland called Stuart”, which is an obscure reference to online dating in a sitcom that I don’t expect anyone else to get.

    But honestly, if anything lends a betrayed spouse credibility in her story it’s being attacked by incoherent, abusive and idiotic comments. I say that as someone targeted by cheats with incoherent, abusive and idiotic comments 🙂 Nothing vindicates me more than having my comments “edited” to be the opposite of what I said. Or being called names. It’s pretty much proof of their low-life character. So rejoice that they showed it to the world. Because now I for one can rest easy that you are very unlikely to be something other than what you say. Take a bow, cheater(s) for validating SCB.

  5. I’ll give your ex one thing, his creativity in coming up with so many (not so creative )user names all in a one day, and his ability in multitasking. But then again he has plenty experience multitasking , lying, playing the victim and the list goes on. You have nothing to feel ashamed of. This is your blog, life and thoughts. If he doesn’t like to read your POV well then it is very simple… He should stop trolling your blog. And then again he and the OW made their bed. I would not have the face to complain or be outraged by the truth of my not so stellar behaviour. You are so better off without a man like him. Keep your head and chin up. Bullies are bullies for a reason they are unhappy and sad inside, they get a little bit of power and satisfaction trying to push others around. You are better and stronger than them. Keep doing what you’re doing.

    • happy says:

      The only problem with your blind support of the blogger is that this blog is full of outright lies and falsehoods. You have no idea what really occured between this couple, why they split up and when and also at what point this other woman became involved. All you have is the complete fabrications she has written. Is she a victim? Or is she the author of her own misfortune? If you knew her and truly felt sorry for her (and she deserves your pity for many unrelated reasons I’m sure) you would be encouraging her to put this behind her and move forward with her life, be grateful for all that she has, be happy like me. Stop quibbling about kitty litter, let go, be happy!

      • I think you should heed your own advice, let it go instead of littering her blog with crass, condescending and childish immaturity. If this is all made up in her head then take the high road and continue with your happy life and your clean conscience. If you want people to see your side then by all means open up your own blog…coming here and making a mockery of yourself and coming off as a bully only makes you look bad.

        Yes, there always is two sides of a story. I know hers, and what you have displayed with your little to be desired comportment does not favor your arguments, nor puts you in a high or good light.

        Moving on…

  6. happy says:

    Good morning bonbon. Do you think your blog supporters are aware that you are now in a relationship with a married man? I wonder what steve’s wife would have to say about all this? 🙂

    • Azif I would ever do that! I’ve never had an affair and either has Steve. Although if you are trying to say that because I don’t have a piece of paper in my hands yet confirming our marriage has ended after at least 3 years of you being with another woman then I guess you are correct. Keep trying to fill my blog with your lies and half truths. I think someone is close to believing you.

  7. Sally says:

    It seems to me that togetherabandonned forgets her role in not only the relationship ending, but also the things that are currently being written. It’s always everyone else who’s the problem or source of her problems and then she advocates bullying against the other woman by posting her name, photos and place of employment and then has the gall to say karma’s a bitch and she deserves what you get. Well if that’s what you support, then the same applies to you and the responses which you see. It’s why so many religious people, like this blogger claims to be, that give religion a bad name. They’re hypocrites and she is showing her true colours loud and clear all over this blog. The blogger and all her supporters who think this behavior to “out people” is acceptable because they have been wronged is bullying and mobbing against the other woman. Why is that acceptable? Because she was wronged? So she can bully and harass the other woman for going on 3yrs? Because the blogger had something go wrong in her life somehow that gives HER licence to do, say, post whatever she feels no matter how offensive, fraudulent, or damaging. Togetherabandonned is interested in only one thing here, and that is not to discuss her path of a difficult life event. It is to defame and injure the other party or parties. To get her pound of flesh and vindication for what she says has been done to her. Read the blog folks, not just the last post or two. Her intentions are very clear and if you think otherwise you’re part of the abuse and mobbing she speaks of.

  8. jules says:

    I am so stunned in knowing that there are really people out there like your ex…..he is evil and a very sick person……..count your blessings he is with Janice now…..let her deal with this nut job……’wow you go girl……….any man that cheats on his wife and family is not to be believed……we know who he is a cheater and a liar…………and the homewrecker is just as bad

    Do not despair or worry about this sinners………..they are cheaters with no morals,love,character,compassion,pride,and have no conscience’…………let God handle them……..they will be accountable for their adultery…………

    S th away from these evil people and do as you please…….continue with your blog……you are a strong and faithful person……….you know who is with you in this journey

    Question if he is so happy with the mistress why is he so interested in your life………he needs to let go ………

    Hey Dave…….move on pal……you threw your wife away…….so forget about her ……be happy with your new choice……’
    ..

    Let you ex wife enjoy her single life

    Let her find a guy who will love her the way she deserves to be loved

    The way you did not .

    • happy says:

      Jules, how do you know any of this is true? Because you read it on the Internet? How easily you condemn and judge..so very Christian of you. If you knew the truth you would be ashamed of your comments. Try to at least have a bit of an open mind. If you blindly trust what anyone crazy person writes on the Internet you really need to question why.

  9. jules says:

    Happy

    Just the fact that Dave and Janice are adulterers is enough proof ……to me and my God……….adultery is a sin……..say no more

    Dave committed adultery…….Janice committed adultery……..they Both had a choice …….

    They both decided to sin together

    It would have been easier to tell the wife ,I want out ,I’m in love with someone else….

    Actions speak louder than words……they went for the kill……..they committed adultery

    That tells you who the liars are

    • happy says:

      Robyn is committing adultery jules, why not condemn her too?

      Who does jesus say you should judge? Yes that’s right. He who is without sin cast the first stone. So easily forgotten. So easy to make judgement about other people you know nothing about. What if I told you that robyn was physically violent towards dave for years, that she slept with three other people while they were married, including a minor. Does that change your impression of the situation?

      • Are you trying to find justification for your actions, Dave? Even if all of your statements about me were true do you think that gives you permission to cheat? Do you think by muddying the water and throwing out false “what if” statements that someone is going to say, “Yes, in that case you are justified.” Is that what you are looking for? You tried to justify why you cheated to me. You said that I let myself go and I didn’t clean the garage when you asked me to. Whatever I did in your mind was obviously justification enough. I am sure you have a million other reasons but those are the ones you gave me at the time. Let’s settle our legal issues and move on. You will never admit you were wrong, sinned, and shouldn’t have cheated. You are continuing in the relationship, claim to be happy, you think you did me a favour by not staying when you didn’t love me so you feel the end justifies the means. Stop living on the fence. Either repent and leave Janice and get yourself right with God or move on and enjoy your life. Maybe you need to resolve your legal issues with me, get your divorce, marry Janice and try to make yourselves both honest people in a committed relationship. That might justify things further in your mind and to the public. I think when you reconcile what you did in your mind you may be happier. The pain I experienced from your actions will always be a memory but it has taught me a lot. It is just another lesson on my journey of life but I don’t care to stay at this destination any longer. You were never a traveler, Dave. I always planned the vacations. It is time for you to book your own flight and chose where you would like to go. I’ve spent long enough on this trip at this stop. I am going somewhere new.

      • Timetomoveon says:

        Shut down the blog Robyn. Just do it. Nothing good will come of this. You need to get a job, get out of the house, meet new people, people who will not enable this behavior of yours. You are better than this, but have gotten into such a rut. Climb back out, and act like a woman. Stop taking shots at your ex, his girlfriend, and his family. Did you think it was really necessary to post what your mother in law told you in confidence? Was it necessary to ridicule your 70 some year old father in law, by calling him a liar. They were nothing but good to you. You should be ashamed of yourself.

    • Sally says:

      13 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to. [14] [b]

      15 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are.

      16 “Woe to you, blind guides! You say, ‘If anyone swears by the temple, it means nothing; but anyone who swears by the gold of the temple is bound by that oath.’ 17 You blind fools! Which is greater: the gold, or the temple that makes the gold sacred? 18 You also say, ‘If anyone swears by the altar, it means nothing; but anyone who swears by the gift on the altar is bound by that oath.’ 19 You blind men! Which is greater: the gift, or the altar that makes the gift sacred? 20 Therefore, anyone who swears by the altar swears by it and by everything on it. 21 And anyone who swears by the temple swears by it and by the one who dwells in it. 22 And anyone who swears by heaven swears by God’s throne and by the one who sits on it.

      23 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former. 24 You blind guides! You strain out a gnat but swallow a camel.

      25 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of greed and self-indulgence. 26 Blind Pharisee! First clean the inside of the cup and dish, and then the outside also will be clean.

      27 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You are like whitewashed tombs, which look beautiful on the outside but on the inside are full of the bones of the dead and everything unclean. 28 In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness.

      29 “Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You build tombs for the prophets and decorate the graves of the righteous. 30 And you say, ‘If we had lived in the days of our ancestors, we would not have taken part with them in shedding the blood of the prophets.’ 31 So you testify against yourselves that you are the descendants of those who murdered the prophets. 32 Go ahead, then, and complete what your ancestors started!

      33 “You snakes! You brood of vipers! How will you escape being condemned to hell? 34 Therefore I am sending you prophets and sages and teachers. Some of them you will kill and crucify; others you will flog in your synagogues and pursue from town to town. 35 And so upon you will come all the righteous blood that has been shed on earth, from the blood of righteous Abel to the blood of Zechariah son of Berekiah, whom you murdered between the temple and the altar. 36 Truly I tell you, all this will come on this generation.

      37 “Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, and you were not willing. 38 Look, your house is left to you desolate. 39 For I tell you, you will not see me again until you say, ‘Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.

  10. Timetomoveon says:

    Robyn. I think time has come for you to move on with your life. Your girls know about the blog. You need to take it down.

    Clean up your house, unpack your boxes, get a job, change your focus. You are heading down a very slippery slope. You are doing things that are going to get you in serious legal trouble.

    Your husband left you, not his kids. You have to accept some responsibility. Everyone knew it was coming, as did you. You did nothing to change.

    Stop the lies and the hatred. Show some class and try and salvage what dignity you have left. It is a terrible thing that happened to your family, but it has been three years now, and you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get on with your life. Do it for your girls, if for no one else. Let them see their mother as a strong, together person, capable of overcoming anything, which is what I am sure you want for them.

    He is never coming back to you, and Janice is not going anywhere. This anger will continue to eat you up inside until it destroys you. Get out while you still can. Let go. Move on. Be strong. You can do it.

    • Where in her posts do you see her longing for her cheating ex? What I read he is making things difficult for her. And I think instead of coming here and posting this message anonymously you should call her up and tell her.

      And your message should go to all your friends that are distastefully clowning on this blog. Let it go. Move on.

      • happy says:

        Yes that is good advice. All her friends and family should call her up and tell her. Her daughters know about the blog, everyone does, they all read it. There is personal and private information posted about both daughters.

      • Timetomoveon says:

        I don’t think I wrote anything distasteful. I am expressing my concern over her state of mind and recent actions. I think she is beyond the point of having someone call her and tell her. Honestly, I believe that those who claim to support her and love her, should organize an intervention, as opposed to enabling this troubling behavior. This woman needs professional help. I am not writing this to bully or ridicule her in any way, I am deeply concerned for her, and the young daughter who currently lives with her.

    • Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right says:

      time to move on… You are very right.

      Regardless of ‘who’s on who’s side’ it doesn’t really matter.
      Mental health is in question; both Dave and Robyn know it.

      Yet this continues.
      It’s hard to read knowing Robyn is sitting her her home, hasn’t showered or done anything with herself except monitor this blog. It’s a beautiful day outside and here she is. This is a time to do some constructive activities… and yet, she’s here embroiled in the emotional discussion of her life.

      Why is it the posters seem to have more empathy and concern for the children than either of these two do?

      • You are right about 2 things. It is a beautiful day and this is my life. I hope you aren’t paying big bucks for surveillance on me. You should have had them set up early outside the 6:00 a.m. yoga class. They have showers there but thanks for being concerned about my personal hygiene.

      • Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right says:

        Well isn’t that rich! You are not employed.. have NO intention of getting a job to support yourself AND you get to go to yoga? Must be nice! I hear those classes are expensive! Wish I had the means to go to Yoga… oh wait! I work for a living. Silly me!
        Get a job Robyn and stop living of a wing and a prayer… THAT business is going to catch up with you really quick.

    • When are you going to realize, Dave, that you have no power over my life. Look at your post. You still want to tell me what to do and how to live my life. You seem to think your opinion of me matters when it is just the other way around or you wouldn’t be wasting your time on my site.

      You are holding on by refusing to honour a legal agreement in an effort to exert power over me and hurt me financially. It was your last straw until you found my blog.

      If I were Janice I would be wondering why you are even communicating with me.

      You are just hurting yourself financially and by trying to holding on to power over me. You aren’t moving forward and severing ties with me so you are hurting yourself emotionally over and over again. I honestly don’t feel anger. Annoyed, but this is the behaviour I am used to with you. This is why my legal battle has gone on for 2 1/2 years. I just keep going the next step.

      The history however proves to my lawyer and your lawyer that no negotiation matters and we are going straight to court. I need to have an enforceable legal document to take to Family Maintenance to have yet another layer between us.

  11. David, I am confident that our children know nothing of this blog unless you have told them and shared the site. I actually had one person approach me who knows I have a blog who wanted to read it but I said that it was private. He still isn’t able to find it. You actually had concerns that I might write in a journal and told me not to because you didn’t want our kids to find it and read it. When you broke into our home you found some printed emails. You scolded me that they were printed and the kids might see them. I did actually think this was a safe forum to sort out my thoughts. The vehicle for my thoughts doesn’t matter to you. You just don’t want me to have a voice. Our daughter was the one who found the sexting messages between you and Janice. Do you think there is anything here written that could be more damaging? Believe me, I don’t want them to read the blog. I didn’t want you to read anything here. You were not my audience. I was just putting together thoughts. It was never a Dave bashing site or Janice for that matter. Just sharing my experience. The kids have no interest in Googling Janice’s name and I doubt they would ever care to Google our names. They are both heavily involved in their own lives. They live with the separation of us, the separation between the girls’ living arrangements, the reasons for it, the conflict that continues between us, the financial concerns that I did my best to shield from them by keeping them in activities and schools that you refused to contribute to fund. You just want me to continue to protect you, not our children. This site is probably really hard for you to read because you are being exposed. There is hope for you if it is hard for you to read how your actions have affected the lives of me and our children. Our children lived it though. They have no interest in reading about it too but if they find it I don’t think there is anything in here that would surprise them. If they do and have questions I will answer them and urge them to talk to you and or a counselor if they think it would be helpful. If you think everything I have written is a lie then our kids are smart enough to see through it. You could just start doing the right thing and provide support on all levels for me and the kids. You could put the children first in your life. Then I could write encouraging posts giving everyone hope and faith in life after divorce with an ex spouse.

    • Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right says:

      There has never been anything positive your kids can read and be proud of… You spew hate and venom constant. You are obsessed with the ex and the other woman. It’s ALL you talk about.
      Surely to God your peers tire of it all. Can’t imagine how your new beau feels about your obsession.
      Hmmm wonder if he’s read this blog and knows how much energy you spend on your hate.
      It’s not hard to put 2 and 2 together with the means of social media. How’s he going to feel if someone contacts him? What if someone took your photos and posted them in a ‘my wife is a nutjob blog’? of course with your name and location.. can’t put a job in the description as you don’t have one.
      I realize you’ve been a stay at home mom… but since your kids are 1. off to college as it’s been pointed out and 2. well I can’t recall the age but I believe you reported her to be 14 or 15.
      How lovely for you to be able to stay at home and not support yourself. I wish that my teenager kids had me at home full time to be at their beck and call. I’d LOVE that. However, my moral compass dictates I do the right thing and take responsibility for MYSELF and not count on others.
      What would you do if your ex got hit by a bus (and I BY NO MEANS want ANYONE to get hit by a bus!!) Who you gonna live off then?

      Jesus Robyn, get your life together, get your house cleaned up… cook your meals instead of taking your kids out ALL THE TIME. YOu can’t afford that! Your home is a shit hole mess and you still have a mountain of boxes to unpack.
      You will feel so much better with all that done.

      Honestly Lady… get your life in order.

  12. jules says:

    Happy

    You have to stop hating……it will make you sick……….move on ….be happy

    Robyn is happy and has a strong desire to be finally divorced

    W by won’t you give her her divorce

    Why are you still hanging on to her

    Let it go….’…Let it go………
    Life is so short
    And this is not a dress rehearsal

    No one knows when that clock stops ticking…………….be happy……be a man……divorce her………..let her find the love she never had with you

    You abandoned your daughters…….you are not home everyday so you did abandon them…….’let them be happy too…………they could right now have a step dad who would be there with them every day and share daily experiences and form happy family memories

    Do it for your girls …….DIVORCE your wife…….SET HER FREE

    • Timetomoveon says:

      Get your finances in order, support YOURSELF. Remember that he needs money to support himself too. He is hardly living in the lap of luxury as you portray him to. He needs this to be over as much as you do. You need to stop arguing over pennies and cents. Have some pride and be independent! Get a job. I know it is difficult, but you have no choice. Cut your losses with him. You will be so proud of yourself in the end, and your daughters will be of you as well.

      • If you are, Dave, concerned about finances you should probably be working instead of spending the last 3 days using a bunch of aliases pretending to be different people all with the same blog entry posts. Yawn…Time to go back to work Dave. P.S. There is no more arguing over pennies in Canada. They are obsolete like your relevance in my life. Cents–get some!

      • Timetomoveon says:

        Really??? You focus on the fact that I used the words “pennies” and “cents”. Unbelievable.

  13. Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right says:

    bit of a conspiracy thinking Dave is behind ALL these posts….
    Even he’s not that creative.

    • happy says:

      Just as she cannot take any responsibility for the breakdown of her marriage, her ego also refuses to allow the thought that there are many different posters here that disgusted with her behavior, her lies, and the treatment of her own children by exposing them to this garbage.

    • He’s not creative. He is desperate and as you pointed out, there are other concerns. I hope your parents are reading everything, Dave, and that someone is a true advocate for you and will get you the help you deserve to have.

  14. Dave & group of made up people by Dave your crazypants. He obviously has anger management & some reason to not let you go. He’s tortured. BTW my husband main girlfriend while we were married is Stacey Adkins of highland, mi. Too bad she dumped him, they deserve each other.

    • So funny, Laura. You got Dave’s goat, too. I’m laughing out loud honestly right now because of how mad he is over your comment. It is ridiculous and confirms his anger issues. And telling you to mind your own business. I am honestly laughing because it is a public blog and can be anyone’s business. Why does he think it his business? Or is he saying WTF to his made up WTF user name? I don’t know anymore. Sometimes I guess you just have to laugh. Maybe Dave can call Stacey. Maybe he already has and that is why he is mad. You outed another one of his girlfriends. 🙂

      • Timetomoveon says:

        I care about your wellbeing and that of your daughters. I want those who clearly do not know you to stop filling your head with lies, and enabling your unhealthy behavior. I replied that way to Laura because she is clearly one if those people. Please shut down this blog Robyn. Please get a job, be a strong independent woman, and set a good example for your young daughter. It would seem as though you are not taking my posts to heart. I have genuine concern for you, and your daughters. You need to get help. Please shut down this blog and get the help you need.

      • Those who want you to do things and are simultaneously name-calling and abusive tend not to have nice motives for wanting it. Funny, that. We are inconvenient we betrayed spouses. People like to pretend we don’t exist and want us to help them pretend. Hopefully we won’t do that. I think if her children ever read this one day they should be appalled at this outbreak of abuse against their mother and hold their father and his cronies accountable for it. I have been the child in that instance and as a result I have spoken to my father once in 20 years. Good riddance to bad rubbish in a liar and a cheat.

    • Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right says:

      Laura… just showed up didja?
      How about you go sit in the corner and pay attention.
      Dave truly can’t manage all these profiles. He’d take responsibility for a couple maybe.

      Me? I ride alone. Dave has nothing to do with me, or my opinions. I like him like I’d like a bad rash.

      Although I seem to have a kinship with timetomoveon. That person knows what the real issues are.
      Robyn, No one ‘got Dave’s goat’… really? By telling someone to mind their own business, they need Anger Management training?

      Dear God please let these people find a fricken’ hobby….

      • Timetomoveon says:

        Riding alone here too, Two Wrongs Don’t Make a Right. I am a tad insulted that she thinks I am Dave, but I’ll get over it.

  15. Two wrongs don't make a right... says:

    Well, all’s quiet in the nut house 🙂
    I don’t think Robyn thinks I’m Dave. However, she may feel consoled thinking Dave is the mastermind behind all the writings here. I wouldn’t give him so much credit… because really; Not everyone thinks Robyn is in the right.
    She was devastated beyond words; who wouldn’t be? What happened was awful.
    It’s the actions we choose to take, and the decisions we make; that create the consequences we then need to live by.
    I unequivocally believe this ‘tattle-tale’ she’s created is devastating to her progress, her moving on, and her ability to be the best parent to her kids. (I didn’t say you weren’t good Robyn; I said you aren’t the best)
    I believe it will be the demise of any intimate relationship(s) she’s in if this continues to be her daily ‘job’…. lots of hours needed to moderate the zoo.

    The blame game gets old.
    It’s time to put on our big girl panties and deal with it.

    • Actually the blame never shifts and it’s not a game. Big girls put the blame where it belongs and let it rot there. Much like dung and vegetable scraps it grows a beautiful garden of knowing we are better than shits like that 🙂

      • Timetomoveon says:

        You do realize that this blog isn’t about you? You seem to always bring it back to you and your life. The fact that you’ve spoken to your father once in 20 years, and are assuming Robyn’s daughters will do the same with their father is appalling. They are very smart young ladies, and no longer solely blame their father for what happened to their family. They understand that there are two sides to each story. Their father loves them very much, and would do anything for them, as opposed to what Robyn has written in this blog. So if you don’t know her, or the situation, please keep your ridiculous comments to yourself.

  16. Sally says:

    Necrophilia….the only thing simple is your thought process. Maybe you, and the other bloggers out there, should spend a little more time on your relationships, and a little less time posting hateful comments on sites across the internet. You might find a higher satisfaction in your daily interactions with others and then there wouldn’t be a need for blogs such as these. Enjoy your weekend cheerleading hate across the world wide web because your daddy didn’t love you.

  17. Sally says:

    Btw Nephila….you chose an interesting name for yourself….Nephila is a sexually cannibalistic orb spider….your choice speaks clearly to your mental state. No wonder you’re so full of hate and spite.

  18. Alex says:

    You are having trouble in the relationship: you sleep in a downstairs suite, you check his phone, you are sad and lost. Then you end up exposing this awfulness, and unravelling the why and how has you maintaining a level of crazy to try to really control things since you have obviously been ruled over for a long time. You’ve learned give an inch, you’ll lose a mile. Then there’s him. He has trouble in the relationship, his dick falls into someone else’s vagina. He hides it and is emotionally abusive because he’s conflicted. Oh man the commenters totally have this one on the ropes. That’s totally the same. Jeez Louise. One simple question: did you fuck someone when you were unhappy in the relationship? No? Then you didn’t start the fire. Burned and damaged?! No doubt. And your reactions moving forward are going to influence your relationships with your kids, and that’s important, really all that matters. Right now, you might need some counselling. You might need to hitch up uour boots and take control of the rest of your life, which yes may include starting work. But all this crazy commentary on your blog? They’re obviously still holding on to this drama too. I agree with the folks about chump lady, and a blog called moving liquid talks a lot about the healing a woman is going through after being financially and mentally ruined and she has FOUGHT hard to get her life back. But you’re fine. Fighting is what’s giving you your groove back. I dig it. Keep on trucking.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s