adultery, affairs, Betrayal, cheating, divorce, the other woman

“Out Damned Spot”

It is very fascinating to me that Dave is trying so hard to turn me into a guilty person.

He is specifically trying to shift blame off himself and accuse me of a variety of offences: I don’t shower, I don’t get out of bed, I don’t enjoy a beautiful day, I do yoga, I do expensive yoga, I go to Starbucks, I am a bad mother, I don’t work, I don’t unpack boxes, I expect him to pay my ferry fare, I am defrauding the government, I steel photos, I bully, and the list goes on and on including the bizarre claim that I have kitty litter all over my house.

What is especially interesting to me is that Dave is fabricating my involvement in an adulterous affair.  He’s even trying to name names, describe vehicles and pull in other people and details to pad his lie. Then he takes it further and calls me a slut.

I came to the realization that he must be feeling so guilty of committing adultery on me that he is trying to get me to share in his guilt. He is trying to shed his own experience and deal it to me instead.

Guilt is described in Macbeth as “Life’s fitful fever”. When you look at the comments made by Dave and his underlings they are certainly exhibiting feverish fits. 2 1/2 years post my discovery of the affair, the fits rage on.  They are consuming Dave’s life to the point that he can’t suppress them anymore.  These are not new rants to me (except for the kitty litter).  These are obviously not new rants to his henchman because they repeat the exact same accusations he has been trying to heap on me from the beginning. That ‘s why all of the 12 (yep, a new one appeared since I last counted) identities commenting on my blog lately seem like Dave himself.  But now he has a new audience of blog followers to try to relieve himself on.

Like Lady Macbeth tried to assure Macbeth “what’s done is done”, Dave has tried repeatedly to convince me of the same thing. I am to “get over it” and “stop living in the past.” “Move on” is his modus operandi. The problem for Dave is that he can’t convince himself. The truth is that adultery is permanent and the guilt it casts on the perpetrator sticks to the conscience despite actions to try and feign otherwise.  Like the wife Dave left, he can’t ignore his guilt either.

Macbeth got no peace from satisfying his ambition to take King Duncan’s throne. Dave is getting no peace either. He may have conquered Janice and tried to make her into a legitimate relationship but his life experience is miserable. He gives glimpses of his life by indicating he “isn’t living in the lap of luxury” and with his anger and nasty attacks on anyone who would dare support my side of events and his paranoia over my cause of anything that goes wrong in his and Janice’s life, his guilt is all-consuming.  Probably because he feels he and Janice deserve to have bad things happen to them and deserve to have people stand against them.

Wikipedia describes guilt as “an emotion that occurs when a person believes that they have violated a moral standard that they themselves believe in.” I remember Dave’s indignation when we found out, shortly after attending our friend’s wedding, that her new husband was having an affair. The affair started before the wedding.  Deceit has always been a huge moral faux pas for Dave. I now think it is because he lives with deceit in his character.  He has difficulty with trust because he himself is untrustworthy and as happened with one of his business partners, if he catches you in a lie, watch out!

Well Dave, keep screaming and washing your hands. The blood, so to speak, isn’t coming out. Like the scarlet letter ‘A’ (was that what was spray-painted on Janice’s car?), your mark is permanent.  It is going to follow you around for life.  Spoiler alert: It doesn’t end well for Macbeth.


28 thoughts on ““Out Damned Spot”

  1. Sally says:

    Btw…this post is super boring. Not as bad as the Jesus Cheaters, but still pretty lame. Come on get your act together and get some real good material going. You’re going to lose your followers with stuff like this.

  2. Happy says:

    It just keeps getting wackier and wackier. While I do like Shakespeare, I agree that the crazy Jesus post was pretty entertaining and good fun. Dave if you are reading this blog maybe you should repent? Or at the very least wear a scarlet “A”? Seems reasonable. Good advice from a perfectly sane, normal and well-adjusted person….bahahahhaaha

  3. Happy says:

    Now that dave is out of the way, here are some suggestions for you today BonBon: have a shower, unpack some of your boxes, clean the kitty litter off the floor….do NOT go to starbucks, do not go shopping, how about get a job and take care of yourself! Then try to be normal so that your children are no longer ashamed of you 🙂

  4. Sally says:

    Oh and since you enjoy quoting things from the net, I thought I’d update you on the definition of “Adultery”… might want to reference that before you call others out on the very same thing you’re doing. Would you like me to get the definition of “hypocrite” for you? Or will the content of your blog suffice? Ah why not it’s below the first one you’re engaged in.

    1.voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.


    1. a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, especially a person whose actions belie stated beliefs.

  5. Robyn Graham Cherrie says:

    My name is robyn and I am ashamed of myself for committing adultery, for being a hypocrite, a slob, a vandal, a crazy psycho person, for continuing this abusive blog I expose my children to everyday. I know the Christian thing to do is to forgive dave, move on and make a new happy life for myself, leave my bitterness behind me and try to not make my children be ashamed of me any longer.

  6. Two Wrongs Don't Make a Right says:

    So now you allow the names of other innocent victims be dragged into this farce called a blog… perfect.
    How does Steve feel about this now?
    There is more wrong than the obvious you stated in your original post here.

    You have complete disregard for your children
    You have complete disregard for your current lover
    Most upsetting is the complete disregard for yourself.

    I can’t imagine being so self involved in such a destructive manner that you allow yourself to slip into the depths of depravity

    oh.. and just to follow suit:
    moral corruption; wickedness.

    That you allow innocent people to be dragged through this nonsense.

    Hope you feel vindicated.
    Hope it’s worth the losses you’ll incur.

    • Sally says:

      You sound like you know this person well? Don’t waste you’re time trying to talk sense into this blogger. She’s cares for nothing but herself, despite what she alleges on this blog.

  7. Sally says:

    Togetherabandonned, did you bother to read MacBeth? You realize that it was Lady MacBeth that goaded her husband into committing the acts that he did? And if you know the story, SHE was so consumed with her involvement and guilt that she committed suicide. Is that what you mean by not ending well? Are you foreshadowing your next move for us?

    • Macbeth is killed by MacDuff for bragging he is invincible. He may have been so consumed with guilt he was begging for someone to off him. He said that there is only peace in death.

      Lady Macbeth dies too. Did she kill herself or did guilt kill her?

      Janice, Dave tried to blame you for his reason in having the affair. Are you goading him to come at me in this forum because you feel he needs to prove himself to you.

      He identified you by calling you the slut and spinster. That is why your comments sound so much like Dave So bitter, so anti-me, and so eager to spread hate and lies about me.

  8. Sally says:

    In case you folks missed it….go back to previous post. Seems our little heroine has been outed as being a fraudster. That to go along with the affair with a married man, Steven Kennell, and other lies and misdirection she’s attempted on this blog. What a joke. Condemn others and yet she is building up quite a resume of moral depravity and criminal activity!!

    • Salem says:

      Together Abandoned, DON’T FEED THE TROLLS! They bore easily and then vanish into their La La Land of manufactured “happiness” and they add nothing to the conversation! And if you are thinking about a gift for your Ex for your kids to give on his next birthday or Christmas then make it a large tub of Kitty litter! He has a lot of shit that needs to go somewhere!

  9. Sally says:

    Where are Jules, Laura (I can’t do it), Phoenix, KCRAMBLES now to defend this little misfit?? Be careful what you read and believe folks. Sometimes these fraudsters aren’t always what they portray themselves to be.

  10. Happy says:

    Bonbon is doing something illegal and immoral? Shocking! Looks like the police will be showing up at her door yet again! Disability fraud..looks like the jig is up bonbon.

  11. Sally says:

    I’m feeling a little abandoned by Togetherabandonned. She isn’t responding or addressing the concerns raised by numerous posters? Surely she can’t deny that she is an adulterer? She’s having a sexual relationship with a married man. And by definition that makes her an adulterer, something she claimed she’d never do. So that makes her a hypocrite by definition. Someone has raised an interesting point that she is also committing fraud. So now she back pedals and tries to deflect so her truth isn’t exposed. Too Late!!

  12. Robyn Graham Cherrie says:

    I promise that my next post will be on disability fraud, how I am cheating both CPP and the tax system and also failing to disclose that income for spousal and child support purposes.

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