I have long since given up expecting my ex to take our youngest daughter every other weekend. He has cancelled on her for the entire weekend on so many occasions. He took her one time and fed her dinner and then just went out to a party. He left her alone at his place without any phone contact. She was terrified. After that she refused to ever stay at his place overnight again. For weekend day visits, he would say he is picking her up at one time and wouldn’t show up for as much as 4 hours later. He even failed to pick her up at the dance studio. It was the last class of the night and he left me scrambling to get a ride home for her with another parent until I could get there.
So you can imagine my surprise when he told her that he was going to pick her up from dance two weekends ago at 8:00 p.m. I asked another dad to just have an eye on her when he picked up his daughter to make sure that my daughter did get picked up. My ex showed up and took her to dinner before dropping her off at home.
When she arrived home she told me that she was going with her dad the next day, Saturday. He was picking her up at noon. I was shocked and didn’t want to sound incredulous to her but I said, “Why?” She said that she didn’t know why. He picked her up and kept her for dinner before bringing her home. Then he picked her up Sunday for lunch and dropped her off at home afterwards.
He changed the night that he sees her during the week from Tuesday to Thursday. He wants to pick her up from my home for dinner and bring her back to my home afterwards. So far he has kept his last two Thursday night commitments.
He called her on her cell phone on Monday night. She looked at her phone and said, “Why is daddy calling me?” She wasn’t going to answer but I told her that she should see why he is calling her. He never calls so I was concerned that something was wrong. He called to tell her that he was watching the hockey game and her friend was singing the national anthem.
So here we are at the ‘every-other-weekend’ again. He told her that he would pick her up at 8:00 p.m. and that he wanted her to sleep over. Again, I said, “Why?” She didn’t know.
I just got a text from her just now that school is done saying that she isn’t feeling well. Not sure if this is related to her sleeping at her dad’s place or not. We’ll see what happens. I told her that she had to text her dad then to say that she wasn’t feeling well and that he could pick her up earlier. I told her that I wouldn’t be home until 7:00 p.m. Her response, “I’ll just go to dance then.”
I told her that if she couldn’t dance after attempting because she still felt sick then to make sure that she texted her dad to let him know. I told her that I would come and get her at 7 if she could hold out until then.