I received 3 harassing texts from my ex today all with the same 2-word message. These came under his new email handle, “happyandcarefree”.
I think he is mistaking being carefree with being careless. He may very well be acting like he has no worries, troubles or stress in his life but all of the things he is avoiding will catch up with him. He may feel carefree because he physically left all of his responsibilities except his job behind. However, I continue to receive some of his mail. He hasn’t paid his medical service plan for months, he hasn’t paid our older daughter’s school bill, he owes a bill from an expense on our Cambridge property, he owes income tax and he still hasn’t filed taxes for 2014.
My lawyer is getting ready to file our order in court so my ex will have to appear before a judge to answer for not paying expenses he legally is required to pay me and that he agreed to pay in our mediation. He will also be required to obtain banking information that we suspect will show he failed to disclose money he has hidden in a bank account he failed to list in his prior affidavit.
There is a side to the definition of being carefree as someone who acts irresponsibly. So if it was my ex’s intention of acknowledging himself as being irresponsible in his new handle then perhaps it does fit.
Synonyms for being carefree include lighthearted, joyous, blithe, airy, gleeful, cheery, elated, and happy-go-lucky. Anyone who knows my ex would never describe him using any of those words.
I simply deleted all 3 of his messages without responding. That feels carefree.
8 thoughts on “Carefree versus Careless”
You are doing the right thing. Be still, be silent and let your lawyer handle things. Your ex is baiting you. He has an agenda and it is certainly not to be kind to you.
That is very true. Thank you.
You are finally doing the right thing……….remove yourself from the crazy……..only you can break this ugly back and forth……he has hurt you enough…….time got you yo say Stop………..I still say you delete the email account so he cannot dump on you anymore………he wants to hurt you and make you angry and crazy….Take that power away from him……….just stay no contact……do not engage…….do not speak to him………….just stay away and don’t let him use you as his punching bag………..be good to yourself………this is an old movie……seen that heard that ……..it’s old and its over……………
You are too good and too kind hearted to fall into this evil. person’s plan to hurt you and HURT YOU in a legal way…….’………stay strong and may God keep you in his loving hands.
Thank you, Jules.
I suggested you read Chump Lady blog. If you do look at the one about mid life crisis. The fourth, fifth or six response down has info you can click on. It is a podcast about cluster B type personality disorders. Very good information about the other woman.
That’s awesome, thank you.
Robyn Graham Cherrie of Victoria, BC
Why do people confuse those two words (careless and carefree)?