Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina

I watched the most recent version of this movie last night.  The one with Keira Knightley as Anna Karenina. 

There was one part when they were discussing “Thou Shalt not covet thy neighbour’s wife”.  One character is asked if he would die for love.  He said that he would but not for thy neighbour’s wife.  He went on to say, ” Impure love is not love to me.  To admire another man’s wife is a pleasant thing but sensual desire indulged for its own sake is greed; a kind of gluttony and a misuse of something sacred that is given to us so that we may choose the one person to fulfill our humanness.  Otherwise, we might as well be cattle.”

I sent this quote to my husband.  I told him that he was free to share this with his cow.


6 thoughts on “Tolstoy’s Anna Karenina

  1. brokenjoan says:

    Still laughing, good comeback line, he’s free to share this with his cow! Sometimes we need a good laugh, thank you. XO joan

  2. Elizabeth A. says:

    Hello. 🙂 I somehow made my way to your blog, because I took an interest in watching Anna Karenina, because I have enjoyed the book so far. The quote also made an impact on me; I have had an unfaithful partner as well. I have no idea what you have gone through, and I honestly can say that I have no leg to stand on, in understanding your situation…. but I do wonder. Why divest in all this energy to go after a woman that did all this wrong to you? I did things that I am not proud of, and actually found myself in Anna’s shoes after I found out, but in forgiving myself and forgiving the people who were involved… it gives a lot of peace, and surprisingly, the strength to move on. It gave me the extra push to be a better person. I hope you don’t let this dictate who you are, and if I’ve completely misunderstood your position, I am so sorry. You don’t need me preaching to the choir. Haha. On a serious note, you seem like a really strong person, and for a man to do this to you, there is no excuse. I hope this only makes you stronger. Best of luck. – Elizabeth

    • Thanks Elizabeth for your comments. It has been a process and part of my journey. I have felt the need to share honestly and openly about my feelings and actions. I don’t think the other woman should be allowed to go unscathed with all the devastation she has caused to me and my children and the rest our family and friends. The ripple effect is quite large and I feel like me acting as though it is anything other than the destruction that is and turning a blind eye to the cause of the devastation would be doing other people in this world and God an injustice. Janice Andrews acted unconscientiously when she chose to pursue a married man with a family. She declared war on me with her actions. Certainly my ex is 100% to blame as well. I think my ex has contributed greatly on top of the affair by not treating me and our children with fairness, kindness or any remorse with the end of our marriage. It could all be finalized by now but my ex simply refuses to allow us all to move on. I would have no reason to focus on him or the other woman if he just followed our mediation agreement that took us 2 years to work out. I have lost so much financially and he knows he has bettered me financially in the settlement yet he wants to fight and fight and push me as far into the ground as he can. I realize now that he is simply not capable of experiencing any compassion or sympathy for people he has hurt by his actions and therefore is rejecting any legal responsibilities he has as a result of his actions. He finds the need instead to try and punish me when he is the one who has put us on these new paths we both find ourselves. He continues to waste my time and energy and resources that could be better spent on our children’s education. My daughter also just brought to my attention that the other woman is using social media to make fun of partners who have issues with their significant other cheating. Both Janice Andrews and my ex think cheating is a joke and are laughing at those affected. I will never forgive them. I suspect, based on their comments on social media, they feel no need to forgive themselves and will continue to go out and do harm to the world. I am just telling it like it is. I am working on making sure that they do as little additional harm to me and my children. I don’t believe this situation makes me stronger but I do know it reveals to those in my life and to me that I do have strength of character. A friend just said to me on Saturday, “How can you be so positive and optimistic?” I am just sharing my story as part of my healing process and if it makes anyone think along the way on how they could handle things better then maybe my sharing can help others. If it makes one person say, “I’m not going to pursue that person I am attracted to because they are married, have a family and it would be wrong and selfish and there will be consequences I couldn’t possibly imagine” then maybe my blog can have some other purpose as well. Thank you for taking the time to share your comments and I appreciate your thoughts, advice, “preaching” and kind words.

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